Yelling! How does Eternal Encouragement seem to know where my struggle is at that moment? A few days ago there was an episode of yelling that I find particularly embarrassing. What made it even worse is that there were two extra children in my home. I have been babysitting this summer to help with the monetary deficit cause by the Drought of 2012 for my family. That day I started cooking breakfast and I could not get the task done due to bickering, complaining, whining, nagging, and tattling. There was literally a time where in five minutes I was interrupted with this a total of ten times. I corrected the nagging child addressed the bickering, but it was getting worse instead of better. They were determined to continue in their behavior-- three out of the four. I felt my frustration building, but no matter how much I addressed them it was still continuing. I kept resisting yelling, but I finally just lost it. I yelled at them and made them all lay down in separate places. I called Vic and vented my frustration to him. Then I finished cooking breakfast. It took an hour and forty-five minutes total with all of this going on to cook scrambled eggs, hash browns, and put cereal and milk on the table. So it was a frustrating morning, but that does not excuse my yelling. I asked my husband to come home for a long lunch. Then he saw the issues I was having and he addressed them. I am not sure why, but sometimes it seems when my husband will address things they improve more. The sound of the house returned to happy children playing instead of the bickering.
When I saw the review for the Gabby Moms was on the e-book Yelling: The Cause, The Casualty, The Cure by Lorrie Flem I felt a sense of relief as this is exactly what I needed. In this e-book Lorrie suggests some of the reasons moms yell. One of the things I found refreshing is that she did not come across in a way that added to the guilt I already feel over the fact that I tend to yell at times. Instead she offered practical suggestions. One of them caused my husband and I to talk through some changes we are making in our family life. We realized that some of our children's temper flare ups and behaviors have been due to them not getting enough sleep. Also we have realized that some of our temper flare ups have been to our lack of sleep and our whole family needs more time to relax. So we are slowing down a bit. This week we made strict bedtimes for our children-- it has even required us to leave events early. Despite the breakfast incident we have seen a huge improvement in our children. We also have made some time for us to just "be" with no agenda, just relax. Vic and I are noticing that overall we feel better as well. I have not yet implemented some of the other suggestions, but I know they will also help.
If you find yourself yelling as I do then I highly recommend the book Yelling: The Cause, The Casualty, The Cure by Lorrie Flem. If this sounds like a book that would help you then you are in luck. The book will be available for free on Kindle July 24-25 only. You will not want to miss out on this amazing book and you can check that amazing offer by clicking here. Yelling: The Cause, The Casualty, The Cure is one of many helpful, encouraging resources available at Eternal Encouragement Magazine be sure to check them out. I know you will find as much encouragement, direction, and guidance as I have.
Disclaimer: I received Yelling: The Cause, The Casualty, The Cure as a part of the Gabby Moms review program in exchange for my honest review.